Thursday, March 15, 2018

Guest blog post on Rock Solid Faith - Marriage and the "S" word

I'm excited to share with you my guest post I did for my girl Shanique over at Rock Solid Faith. 

This last year has been a journey for me in learning about what it really means to be a Christian woman and wife.  I don't always get it right, who does?  Yet, I feel better equipped now after studying scripture on the topic to live my life in a more God-honoring way.  And to be the best wife I can for my husband...Click here to read the whole post!

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

What is your head telling your heart?

This year has been a series of ups and downs for me.  If you have followed along with my story you know from my writing that it has been a difficult year.  To be perfectly honest I am ready for this year to be over...yet I fear it dragging it's heartaches and drama into 2018 with me and that I do NOT want.

This season has found me only making a handful of posts this year as it has been hard to just get through my days.  Hard to breathe.  Hard to put one foot in front of the other.  Hard to think.

Which brings me to today's post...what is it that I am allowing myself to think on?  God's word tells us in Philippians 4:8 that we need to think on the following:

Unfortunately, this world we have live in is often far from true, noble, honest, just, or pure.  While it is sometimes lovely, it could be said it is rarely commendable...we hardly ever hear about excellent things and thinking about what is worthy of praise becomes a difficult task indeed!  Even more so when you are walking through a is hard to see the light through the shadows of darkness that seem to envelope you.

What I have found this year though is that it is absolutely necessary to realign my thinking if I am to realign my life.  When I allow myself to remain in the negative thought process than life truly becomes overwhelming.  It is a bit of an Eeyore mentality...take a look here if you are not sure what I mean...Life as an Eeyore

Can you relate?  I'll be honest...I can!  I have felt that "Woe is me" feeling.  Even when I know others have it far worse than me...even when I know in my heart God is in my humanity, I am still prone to throw a pity party.  To get down in the dumps.  Call it what you will...the root of it many times is a wrong thought process.

 Whatever you allow in your thoughts is what you will feel in your heart, your soul.  When I got this into my way of thinking then I was better able to implement the beauty of Philippians 4:8 and find positive things to dwell on instead of the dark negativity I had let reside too long.  Mind you my circumstances have not necessarily changed.  I am still walking through a season that I wish I could shake off.  Yet, I am working each day to think on things that are praiseworthy...that call to mind God's goodness, greatness, and grace.

Exchanging the negative for the positive is changing me from the inside out.  It is putting joy and hope in my heart even on days when I have every reason to curl up in the corner and cry.  It is reminding me that because He overcame, I will too.  It is allowing me to rest in His strength instead of trying to rely on my feeble efforts.

Some days I still find it hard to breathe.  I have a hard time making it from dawn to dusk.  But now I have thoughts I can pull from that raise me up, instead of dragging me down further.  Thoughts that remind me there is always something better to dwell on than my circumstances and situation.  Always something to be thankful for.  There will be beauty from ashes...don't be an Eeyore...find some happy thoughts to root out that negativity!

Friday, October 13, 2017

Seasons...and Ephesians...

I am continuing this year in a season that I never would have thought I would find myself in.  It has been and still is one of great struggle, pain, identity lost and found.  Through it all what has kept me afloat is His word.  I just keep digging into the spiritual food I have been languishing for - years of undernourishment led me to a place where I had nowhere to go but up.

Yes, I read my Bible on occasion.  Went to church at Easter and Christmas.  Listened to Christian radio.  Read Christian books. They did not feed me like I needed to be fed though.  It wasn't the "daily bread" that would fill my soul.  They were just small morsels, not the full feast.  God has prepared for us a feast!  Did you know that?  Yet many of us never eat from the table...we only get the leftovers and scraps that fall on the floor.  We are not pursuing our rightful place as His heirs.

If I could choose to be done with this season I am in I would have ended it months ago.  Yet it is not my will but His.  He has me on this journey for a purpose and a reason.  I may not enjoy parts of it and I may question and even rail against it (yes, screaming, crying fits are okay...He can handle it), however, I am learning there is meaning in it.  I am growing in it.  He is making me a daughter...a child of the King in new ways.

 I am learning, really learning and taking it to heart for the first time, that I am not defined by my past mistakes, fears and failures.  They do NOT hold me captive.  HE has the FINAL word!  I am so very glad!

In what I call a God-cidence, another daughter of the King, Mrs. Sarah Koontz, has written a most excellent online Bible Study that is starting Monday, October 16th.  This study is so timely to me in this season I am walking in.  I think you will find it helpful for whatever season you are in right now as well.

Through this study you will learn more about your worth in Christ...your strength in Him...your calling.  Worthy of the Calling is the name of the study...and the time commitment is small.  Just 15 minutes a day...and it is even accessible on a mobile device! You can register via the link here - Ready to go deeper? Enter here!

I really hope you will join us as we dig into rich truths about who we are in God and how we can walk "Worthy of the Calling".

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Roller coaster ride

My life has literally been a roller coaster this year.  It has been full of tears, fears, pain, heartbreak, distrust, trust regained, wounds, scars, and finally now...healing.

If you are struggling today, give it to Him...whatever healing you need, physical, mental or spiritual, He can handle it...He can heal any wounds, any illness, any hurt. And he is much better equipped to battle than you are. Let His strength be your comfort.

Another verse that has been a constant companion this year has been Psalm 28:7.  Psalms and Proverbs both are great places to start if you feel a need for comfort and wisdom.  So many rich little bits there!

My continued focus for this year is to keep my eyes on Him so that I will not stumble, fall, or be a stumbling block for someone else. My biggest problem is and has been worry...when I forgot to give everything to Him, when I do not spend time in prayer and His word...I find myself slipping back into a pattern of worry, fretfulness, easy to be angered, upset, thinking the worst in all situations, seeing things in a worse light than what they truly are.

It is only when I begin to pray and read His word more diligently that I become centered and grounded again in the truth that He proclaims over us...the power of His love, grace and mercy. God let my focus stay on you...lest I worry myself into a frenzy over something you have already defeated and won victory over.

If I can just remain focused on Him and not on my situation, everything becomes much calmer...more peaceful...not fixed maybe, but hopeful at least.  I leave you with this illustration...

Now arm yourselves with Biblical weapons and go SLAY!

Monday, February 27, 2017

To be a woman of God and not the world...

I've been thinking a lot about God's blessings to us and how, at least for me, I have taken many for granted lately. As I delve into scripture more and more I am reminded of how divided and unholy my thoughts and ways are at times towards my fellow man...and woman. It reminds me of James 3:10 - "Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing". (Chapter link for perspective on this verse
Just as the Bible says, this should not be so...yet it happens. Every day. Every week. We get angry, we get offended, we get upset...and in anger and haste, words pour forth in a torrent. And we apologize. But are we forgiven? And do we truly forgive others when we are so attacked? I dare say we often do not...or we take our time about it.
I am far from perfect, yet I pray most earnestly that God will work on me in these areas to bring blessing and words of positive praise and good report to others. To lift up and build up, not mock and tear down.

It is often easy to find fault in what someone has done to us in the heat of the moment, yet if we stop, can we truly say we have always been good to them? Have we always been kind? Loving? Generous? If not, how can we resolve to do better?

I yearn to be a Proverbs 31 woman...a woman who finds good in everything, is pleasing in temperament and wholesome in her speech. Who is industrious without complaint, smart and strong, yet without being haughty or rude.

If you are struggling like me, will you be brave and comment "Me too!"? It is always nice to know you are not alone.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

One thing never changes...New Year or not.

As we start a New Year, everyone is talking about change. We have a new President about to take office. Some people are moving to new homes. New jobs. There are new babies. New friends. Resolutions to change their weight, become more educated, or to just be kind.

Not all change is welcomed or deemed positive. Some is downright scary. A bad health diagnosis. A lost job. A lost child or spouse.

One thing that I am so glad never ever changes, is the character and nature of Jesus Christ. Hebrews 13:8 tell us that "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever". Doesn't that make you smile??

Let it comfort you my friend if you are dealing with frightening changes in your life...and if things are pretty rosy for you, well then, praise the Lord for your blessings! He will never leave nor forsake us. He will always be right here. And we can always expect the same love and grace that flowed from His death on the cross to meet us where we are right now. Or ten years from now even. Amen!!

#BGBG2 #Hisloveneverfails

Friday, November 4, 2016

Suffering does NOT mean you have done wrong...

"Suffering doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Sometimes it means you’ve done something right" - Dr. Tony Evans, Urban Alternative #CarryYourCross

I really really love this! When we are going through trials and tribulations it is so tempting from a human perspective to figure out the why? The what have I done wrong question is oftentimes not the right question when it comes to what God allows us to be taken through.

In whatever season you are in, whether it be job loss, loss of a family member or other loved one, illness or injury remember this...God loves you. You can say that is trite, that it is just some kind of comment meant to make people feel better, but what it really is, is the truth.

Some people wrongly think that if bad things are happening to them they must have done something bad.  I think the perfect example of this being untrue is the life of Job.  Here was a man who had a heart for God, did all the prescribed things he was to do under the law (remember his story was before the cross, before grace) and yet he lost everything.  He nearly lost his life.  Not because God did not love him mind you.  But because God allowed Job to be show that Job's faith would not fail.  Now it wavered!  It wavered mightily as he lost his family, his livelihood and his home.  However, in the end, Job declared "the Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord."

Just as parents want the best for their children, so our heavenly father wants the best for us. And sometimes just like you have to let your children go through hard things to learn the lessons they need to learn or to be an example to others, so does God allow things in our lives to help us grow, strengthen our faith in Him, deepen our relationship with others, and ultimately draw others to Him.  I can tell you from my own personal experiences that it has been in the hard times that I have learned best how to trust God.  It is when nothing else is making sense that I can run to the shelter of His wings and take refuge and know that all is going to be alright. If you are His you know that all things work together for the glory of Him.  That is peace.  That is joy beyond comprehension.

Some verses to ponder:
Romans 5:8 [Full Chapter]

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Romans 8:28 [Full Chapter]

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
If you do not know this love yet, you can friend!  Just ask God to forgive your sin and enter your heart to live as your savior.  He will answer your prayer and will begin to walk with you through every part of your life.  It is a sweet journey! 

*all scripture references taken from Bible Gateway; NIV and KJV